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Superwoman I am not


You know that gene that people have that makes them “run through the cramp”?   You know…  it’s the gene that makes you choose to push yourself to do more.  To keep going.  To run an extra mile.  To stay up late cleaning your house and packing lunches even though you are exausted.   To never go to bed with your kitchen dirty.  To always have the laundry put away and not lay in stacks for a week on the couch.  

You know that gene?  

Well, I don’t have it. 

I don’t.  I don’t even have a similar gene.  It is not part of my DNA.  God gave me with the “eh..this is good enough” gene.   That’s the gene that allows you to sit on the couch with a bottle of wine, 3 boys, and a blanket while looking at the MOUNDS of laundry, school papers, bills and beheaded dolls.   Looking at the chaos.  Being annoyed by the chaos.  Judging the chaos.  But NOT fixing the chaos.   

It’s the gene that allows to me move stacks of laundry from one couch to the other couch so we can all cuddle together instead of taking those clothes to the bedrooms.    It’s the gene that allows me to sit down and enjoy a family meal without worrying about the dishes.  It’s the gene that allows me to leave pots soaking in the sink overnight to be dealt with in the morning.

Sometimes my “it’s good enough” gene is a blessing.   Sometimes it’s a curse.  Sometimes I WISH I could be more motivated to get it all done.  To go go go.  To mop instead of nap.  To organize closets instead of lunch with the girls.  To dust the picture frames and wipe down the molding instead of just a quick run with the Dyson.    To say up late wrapping up my day instead of catching up on the DVR and being in bed by 10pm.

Sometimes I really wish that was case.  But it’s not.  It’s just not who I am.  And although I think it would be nice to wake up every morning to a pristine home with a place for everything and everything in it’s place, I’m not going to be the one to make it happen.    I know that about myself.   I accept it.  I feel guilty about it sometimes, but also firmly believe that guilt is a wasted emotion so that doesn’t linger too long.

So today….. NOVEMBER 12, 2011…  is my “pretend you have that gene and catch up on EVERYTHING” day!   The boys have been warned.  We are going through this house like crazy people.  We are cleaning closets, wiping moldings, dusting picture frames, scrubbing floors, changing lightbulbs,  polishing wood, bathing the dog,  washing windows and PURGING that god-forsaken playroom.    

We will blare music, we’ll probably dance,  we may do a kick-line or two, and I’m sure there will be some yelling.   But today is the day!  Today is the day that we get it done!     Wish me luck!!

{and if you are one of the perfect people coming over tomorrow afternoon and look around my house and think to yourself “really?  this is her best?” …. keep that shit to yourself or I will cut you.  For reals…}

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12 Responses to "Superwoman I am not"

  1. Hot Mess Mom says:

    I recieved this email this morning and thought it was worth sharing.. Thank you for sharing!!

    Dear HMM,
    I am not a big facebook person and hardly ever post or comment on anything but I had to write you about your “gene missing” article today. I love your hotmess mom blog. I too am a hotmess mom. I have 4 kids…three girls and a boy. My husband travels all the time and I feel like half the time I am going to lose my mind. I really had a good laugh today reading your blog. I too am missing that gene. Half ass is good enough for me. As we speak I have about 10 loads of laundry that need to be done but am out of detergent. I am not in the mood to take all four kids to the store so instead I try to put it out of my mind and pretend it is not there. Keep on writing…you always have had a great sense of humor and it comes through in your writing. I am tempted to buy one of your shirts but the people up here in Maryland would definitely judge me
    take care.

  2. Gleek says:

    Yup, there will be yelling.
    I think the gene for that is the crazy gene anyway. You have the “enjoy life” gene. I like that one better 🙂

  3. kingstonmom says:

    Thank you HMM. I love how you cut the crap and are real with the adventures of motherhood. Now, i think I will go celebrate not having the “crazy” gene. Love your blog, makes my day

  4. Crazy Mama says:

    Love it!!! So well said… I do not have that gene either! Cheers!

  5. Kristy says:

    OMG! I LOVE THIS BLOG! My friends and I drunkenly said a couple of months ago that we should create a website and call it, and regale the world with tales of our shenanigans… So, we remembered to look it up (finally) a couple of days ago only to find that – not only is the address taken but the person who writes the blog is JUST like me. In every post I read, I feel as if I’m leading a parallel life or some weird sh*t like that! From having a favorite, to embarrassing my children… from my #2 struggling in school and not being able to read the SAME word from one page to the next (AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH)… and from loving wine to loving vodka… we’re either the same person in two bodies or you’re in my head. My best friend agrees. Either way, I’m glad one of us is getting “our” message out there. 🙂

    I have never posted a comment on a blog or news story, ever, but, I couldn’t NOT post something… that’s how fascinated I am by the discovery that there are more of “us” out there spreading our awesomeness in the world.

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      that makes me soo happy!! Welcome! And thank you! I’m glad to see I have a twin… are you dieting too? 😉
      I love the comments.. PLEASE keep them coming. “Like” HMM on Facebook and also “like” the Million Milf March. We are doing a girl’s weekend/charity event in New Orleans this September for women like US! You must come!!! And bring your messy friends!

  6. […] wrote a post several months ago called Superwoman I am not.  It explains that I am the queen of “good enough”.  Whatever the gene is that people […]

  7. PooH says:

    ohh HMM I only discovered ur blog yesterday and I was pretty sure I was ur long lost soul mate. Tonight I found this post and I am 100% sure of it. We are two kindred spirits, living miles apart. Yet are lives, boys, and sense of humor could not be more similar! I <3 U. I would love to come to one of your happy hours!!!! Maybe one day I can make it to your Million Milf March, I am still figuring out the logistics of it all!!! KEEP UP YOUR BLOGGING!!!!!

  8. Rita Walden says:

    I am spending this morning….instead of doing last nights dishes and catching up on laundry and needin to clean up the grandkids playroom, which is like a tornado has came thru…reading all ur blogs and I am so truly enjoying it and like I am reading about myself. Im laughing saying geez there r real people out there like me. I go visit a few of my friends houses sometimes and look at how everything has a place. Everything is spic and span clean and I think to myself I once was like this. But having kids and their friends the majority of my life now, and now grandkids who are here daily…I just cant keep up and thinking bout trying to just itself wears me out. I love ur blogs and FB, ur writing is inspiring to me. Thanx and so glad I found women like me to laugh at and giggle along with.

  9. Mandi says:

    I’m at work now, just got back from lunch, knowing in about an hour I have kid pick ups from school that will start. So I’m sitting here reading this and honestly seeing a great point that half-assing it is a fracking wonderful way to live when it comes to laundry, etc etc etc. (Mind you I’ve got piles of laundry all over my living room right now that I fully ‘intended’ on seeing to at lunch – didn’t happen.) And after I get home with my kiddos? The 3 of us will sit down together, do homework, maybe cook breakfast for dinner, and then snuggle up to watch a movie together. My ex-husbands know not to expect perfection when they show up to see the kids, My boyfriend is learning to understand that. My best best’s? These are women that adhere to the same lines of perspective. Worst I ever hear from any of them is “Crap – don’t you ever do laundry or clean up?” My response? “I swear to God I’ll pay you if you want to take care of it for me. I’m too busy working so I can spend time doing more important things”


  10. Christina says:

    I’m laying in bed…half assing a nap before I go and pick the kids up from school. I have an 18 year old and a 4 year…I know rite just as im at the finish line (a month after I get my tubes tied) Dave the single father shows up and sweeps me off my feet…well that’s the story we tell the kids. Now I’m knee deep in crayons, homework, field trips and helping with college applications! Thank you for laughs and sanity you lend to my day. Please keep writing, we are drowning in perfect lil snowfakes and super moms out here 😉

  11. Melissa says:

    I still have my Christmas tree up. Nuff said

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