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Seven & I ~ an overview

People have asked about Seven and I’s relationship.  Does he think the blog is appropriate?  Do I really want to cut him when I threaten to?   A few have gone as far as to say they consider HMM disrespectful to Seven.    I can assure you, Seven takes no offense to anything I’ve ever written on HMM.      

Here is all you will ever want to know about Seven and I:

  • We’ve been together for 15 years and married for 13
  • We started dating when I was 24 and he was 29.
  • We’ve had 6 addresses and lived on 2 coasts
  • We have had 10 jobs, 3 careers and 6 cars
  • There was a time that I had to travel for my job more than Seven.
  • That time is over.
  • We laugh.
  • We had  3 boys in 3 1/2 years.
  • We do not fight often, but when we do, it’s a doozie. 
  • We bicker constantly.
  • We laugh.
  • There has been 1 year that we thought we may not make it  ;(
  • There have been 14 years that we knew we would  😉
  • He is my best friend.
  • He makes me crazy.
  • We laugh.
  • We tell each other more than we should.
  • We do not “talk about our day”.
  • I have zero interest in his job.
  • Where he is liberal, I am conservative.
  • Where he is conservative, I am liberal.
  • We laugh.
  • He is an incredible father.
  • He makes me crazy.
  • He thinks I’m crazy.
  • We laugh.
  • If he were not my husband, he would still be someone I would choose to hang out with on a Friday night.
  • We cannot play board games together. 
  • We cannot play most games together.
  • I like good wine.
  • He likes wine. 
  • I’m smarter.
  • He has more sense.
  • He was a Marine.
  • I was in high school when he was a Marine.
  • I handle all of our money.
  • He makes all of our money.
  • We have been financially comfortable.
  • We have been financially crippled.
  • We have been “poor” more often than not. 
  • We laugh.
  • We are grateful every day for our family.
  • We love our boys.
  • We love our life.
  • We bicker.
  • We laugh.
  • We are lucky. 




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55 Responses to "Seven & I ~ an overview"

  1. Kristi says:

    That almost made me cry. I think that is true for all of us who read this. I remember the year that my marriage almost didn’t make it. And I hope to GOD that there is only one of those years in my life! I LOVE my husband! I would rather spend a Friday night on the couch with him than with anyone else on earth, and sometimes I want to strangle him. And I don’t care about his new job, but I hope with my whole heart that it is the most successful thing he ever touches with two hands!!! And the kids we have created together…they are the coolest things I have ever done. We love them. They look like us, they act like us, and I want to see them grow up as I grow old with their daddy. So funny…so touching…so true!

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      thanks kristi.. 😉

  2. Liese says:

    So, remember when I told you that I think we all love you so much because you are us, only with much better writing skills?
    This is one of those blogs. You said “We laugh” seven times….coincidence?
    You’re awesome. Thanks for this one.

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      i did not know i said it 7 times.. that is funny!

  3. Liese says:

    I also feel obligated to mention to those who will never see Sevens face that he is hot. Not just cute, smoking fucking hot. Its kind of ridiculous. He’s a DILF.

    1. Cami says:

      DILF… lmfao.

  4. Brett Minor says:

    This was great. Simple, but said a lot.

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      thank you Brett. 😉

  5. Heather says:

    I have been reading your blog for a while and I love it! I also love the way you describe your marriage, mine is similar! Thank you for writing and speaking for so many of us. 🙂

  6. Kelley says:

    Forget all that shit…I just want to know why you call him 7!! Godamn it!!

  7. Kelley says:

    I do know his real name though. Slipped out along the way somewhere…like JLow’s nipple;)))))

  8. Stephanie says:

    I gotta say that your blog is very enlightening to me. Your writing is an amazing talent that I think many of us wives and mommies can relate to. Many days when I feel like my head is gonna explode with me own internal thoughts I read one of your blogs and realize that I am not alone in this sometimes lonely worl of raising our kids and being wives. Thank you for making me feel “normal”.

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      wow. thank you… that is very touching!

  9. Jennifer says:

    You guys love like no other…And it’s awesome…And YES he cannot play board games, he is a sore loser…and likes cheap wine (swill)…

  10. Jennifer says:

    And I miss you guys terribly…

  11. Shannon says:

    DOES your husband ever mind certain topics you write about that include him? I just started blogging about a month or so ago, and the hubby isn’t always a fan of it. He would like me to leave him out… but how can I when he is SUCH a big part of my life?

    What about family members? How do you know what is okay to write about, and what isn’t, in regards to your loved ones?

    I would lOVE to hear your thoughts! I am thoroughly enjoying the blogging world thus far and would like to see where this takes me!


    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      well, i only started blogging in September. I thought it would be more stories about the kids, but it has morphed into whatever the hell i want to write about that day. My life is an open book. There is nothing that i’ve written here ever about my husband or kids that i wouuldn’t say in front of them or to a friend at happy hour. Seven doesn’t mind. He’s spent 15 years with me airing our laundry verbally… putting it on paper doesn’t make a difference. And it’s all done with a true intent of humor… not bashing. I will tell MY stories. I will not tell my family’s (ie: sister/ parents/ inlaws etc) I have lots of GREAT material that I will never write about.

      And also, i don’t write about anything that i think would hurt someone.

      Those are pretty much my rules today.. they could change at any time 🙂

  12. JoJo says:

    What a great tribute to your ongoing hot mess relationship! Whoever said marriage is easy was never married!

  13. Earth Muffin says:

    What a beautiful, honest tribute to your husband! I hope he reads this.

  14. JenniferC says:

    I wanted to hit like on every single post here. Facebook has ruined me.

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      you can comment! i love the comments!! trust me… blogging is WAY lonlier than FB!! 😉

  15. Jen says:

    Sounds like a healthy relationship! Well written, and may I say the best kind of partner is one who can take being written about in the blog ;). My husband just rolls his eyes and laughs.

  16. Cayce says:

    I have never met Seven but would really like to – from the pics I have seen I must agree with Liese – he is super good looking. And the 2 of you really seem to have a great understanding of each other. I hope he read this post – so sweet.

  17. Brenda Boo says:

    Many moons ago when Seven had yet to meet the glory that is you, I considered him my best friend. He “got” me and my brash sense of humor and accepted me in my good and not-so-good moments. He made me laugh…a lot. When he smiles, his eyes crinkle and twinkle. Back then he was quite a good looking fellow and charmed the pants off of anyone he met (sometimes literally, but mostly figuratively). He was kind to everyone. He was my Gooley.

    I remember when he met you and when he introduced me to you soon after. You “got” me and we shared the same brash sense of humor. You lit up a room with your smile and your ways and your kindness. As Seven fell in love with you, I did as well.

    Hell no he isn’t uncomfortable with a single word you type in this blog. There is no way. He recognizes that this blog is a love letter to him and your boys and a testiment to your blessings.

    With all the mediums of communication available to us today, there is an unspoken invitation for people to unload their hearts to make room for more of whatever they are dishing out. Sometimes that takes the shape of fear, anger and greed. I am of the opinion that those things can suck it.

    But in your case, even when you are being a hormonal bitch, all I see and feel is the glorious sunshine of love. And that most definitely doesn’t suck.

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      wow B. I can’t wait for him to wake up and read this. You are awesome. That is so amazingly kind.
      And yes… his eyes do crinkle and twinkle.. More crinkling now at 45 then back then 😉 We love you. And you still have the softest skin I’ve ever touched!

      1. Ann says:

        That was the most beautiful tribute by Brenda Boo!
        Truly lovely.
        You two are awesome, together and individually. That’s why your marriage works, because you respect and adore each other’s individuality.

        Marriage is an ironic bitch who by her very nature is trying to force people apart. Only the strong will survive her.

        love you, hot mess and the husband too!

  18. Melissa says:

    Thanks for the post! It spoke to me in volumes, especially all the ups and downs. Brenda Boo- your words were more touching than the post. I think because my hubby gets so fecking butt hurt when I write something that he takes the wrong way. I wish he saw my blog as a release of energy and thoughts that allow me to be a better mom & wife. Thank you both for such candid words and for allowing us to share in a piece of your life. 🙂

  19. Seven says:

    Not for nothin, but playing board games is only a problem when one of us loses, HMM would never bother me because the Mess is funny and that’s what I love about her, and Brenda Boo it’s a shame you got out of the business because you’re a much better writer than I will ever be. Miss you.

  20. Anne Rue says:

    Sounds like a completely healthy relationship to me!

  21. Twinks Mama says:

    I knew I loved you for a reason! You have described mine and my husbands relationship. Except the years are off a tad and the Marine thing! Other than that yup, the number of homes, cars, jobs, careers. We also had a rough year and most strong marriages do. If you are able to survive that and see each other at your worst and move on, well then you have a strong bond. That being said anyone who thinks your are disrespectful to seven on here is full of it! They either need to take time to work on their relationships or life to fulfill whatever may be missing. I can’t stand people who want to push their beliefs of how a relationship should be. Marriage isn’t cookie cutter and what works for one doesn’t work for all! Also people who are complaining might need to go find a marriage blog to read, that might fit their criteria!

  22. Kristin says:

    LOVE this! Thank you for saying it!! I actually had the same questions recently asked about my blogging and I think it’s wonderful that he supports you and your honesty. I think this was a great way to put it, love your way with words, please keep writing 🙂

  23. LA says:

    Love the post! Your “one rough year” has stuck with me all day and giving me hope. I think this is our year. Glad to know it’s “normal.”

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      the terrible year makes you appreciate the good ones more..
      good luck.
      marriage ain’t easy….. I’ve always told Seven.. Even when I don’t love you, I’d better damn well like you. When we stop liking each other as people, we are in trouble. And we did stop liking each other. And it sucked.

  24. andrea says:

    Hi – just found your blog and I plan on visiting often. Love this list; could write my own similar list. O compare my marriage to making an efficient batch of chicken cutlets: one hand stays wet and the other stays dry – I am the alarmist and my husband stays calm. Works for us.

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      that is awesome! ha!!

  25. Kim says:

    Love this list! That’s all 😉

  26. nicolle says:

    Whoa whoa whoaaaaa…you shared a soft side…which babies head did you rip off and swig before writing? =). I live you crazies…you make my unwinding at night one HUGE giggle. Oh! And oddly enough we ate on the same years married…and yep…the rough times suck…but, like life with every rise there is a fall and with every fall there is someone who’ll pick u back up…hopefully, that someone is your spouse AND hopefully there won’t be any bricks tied to your ankles… =)

    1. nicolle says:

      •love your crazies• •We are on the same years•

  27. Sami says:

    That was great! Thank you for sharing…

  28. Chrissy says:

    I have told you a miIllion times that i love Seven, and usually like him more than i like you, but together, you both are completely amazing. I cannot wait to see you and seven next weekend but The sleeping arrangements are the same as they were the night before your wedding ; ) xoxo

  29. Julie says:

    I love, Love, LOVE this post. I just stumbled across your blog the other day from circle of moms – thought I might enjoy a gal who called herself a Hot Mess (which is also what I am!) and I was RIGHT.

    I’m really enjoying catching up with your blog. I’ve got my own as well, and don’t post as often as I probably should, but as you know, it’s a labor of love, and if I’m not feeling the love, I probably shouldn’t post it.


  30. LES says:

    Awe, well said.

  31. Sarah says:

    I am not even fully sure how I got to your blog but I am oh so glad that I did! This is exactly what I needed to read today.
    Can’t wait to now read your blog on purpose…..not just when I am supposed to be working and stumble upon it!!

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      yay! welcome!! if you are on Facebook, make sure to LIKE our page.. lots of stuff goes on on the FB page that never makes it to the blog 😉

  32. Sounds like you have one helluva hubbs!

  33. Nikki says:

    Sounds so much like me and my hubs. I wouldn’t really stab him but I threatened it quite often! If I stabbed him I wouldn’t have anyone to play darts with in the garage. My kids can only hit the wall! i like a little competition 🙂

  34. John says:

    I found your blog this morning and I am a roster in the hen house, I know. As a dad of 5, I relate to your posts I read this one to my wife..your humor and real approach is great. You have a new fan in our family

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      thanks and welcome! You’ll be at home here.. 25% of my readers are men!! 😉

  35. Laura Torres says:

    What a beautifully written overview! Love your honesty about your life and mostly your perspective!! Just keepin it real HMM! Thank you!

  36. Rita Walden says:

    Loved this…Real people will relate to everything u said about 7. The fact u said we laugh so many times puts it in contrast that Life is good and u wouldn’t have it any other way. Me and mine bicker disagree he makes the money he handles the money I enjoy the benefits and I love that aspect. Been with mine 32 yrs. First 17 married the past 15 divorced, would I marry him again….In a heartbeat. Have 3 Kids who r a mix of us both and all 3 so different. 6 grandkids and 1 on the way and another trying to become existant LOL. He tells me all the time I should watch my mouth in front the kids and don’t like the fact I say it like it is most time (ima big mouth redneck I hear a lot) But we r still together and that means something. We r an imperfect perfect cple. We get along fight, bicker, and Laugh a lot! That’s a lil bout me. Thanx for sharing ur world with us. Makes me feel normal now.

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