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Why being a bad “parent” makes me a good “mom”

  Admittedly, I’m never going to be in the running for Parent of the Year.  Never, ever, EVER going to happen.  Ever.  {ever} Sometimes my house is a mess.  Sometimes I forget to pay the bills and services get disconnected. Sometimes my kids come home from school to a messy house without power.  Or cable.  Or without power AND cable. Sometimes, when my kids beg to sleep in or play hooky, I let them. Sometimes I feed them bushels of fruits and veggies. Sometimes I feed them processed foods. Sometimes I even feed them GMO’s. Sometimes I don’t register them for sports in time and they don’t get on the “right” team. Sometimes I don’t register them for sports at all because the game/ practice schedules are conflicting with our vacation plans. Sometimes I wake up early and make … Read entire article »

Filed under: Dear Diary, Family, Featured, Ramblings, Ways I know I'm failing as a parent

I am BLESSED and I don’t care who knows it.

  I just returned from a weekend in New York City with my first born. It was an incredible few days.  Truly, one of those weekends that many can only dream of.  I am blessed. There.  I said it.  I am BLESSED.  Change “blessed” to lucky, fortunate, or any other word of your choosing.  THAT is how I feel and THAT is what I am. Every minute of every day I am grateful.  I am grateful for the things that I have earned and the things that I have been given.  I am grateful for plain, dumb luck. This blog (and specifically the Facebook page that accompanies it) has grown exponentially over the past few months.   While posting on Facebook this weekend, many times I wrote, and subsequently erased, the word “Blessed”.  I could … Read entire article »

Filed under: Dear Diary, Family, Ramblings

To blog or to Facebook? That is the question….

  New Year, New resolutions, New blog post. Same bullshit. In addition to my normal “let me be better” goals of lose weight, exercise more, drink less, don’t smoke, blah blah blah….  I REALLY do want to get to back to writing on the blog on a semi-regular basis (ie: weekly). But here’s the rub.   Writing on the blog is kind of a pain in the ass. Let me e’splain…  No, it’s too much…  Let me sum up .. I need access to a computer.   I’m a busy bee.  I’m not home that often.   I have a smartphone.  Updating a Facebook status with my thumbs is easy.  It’s quick.  It’s painless.  It offers immediate gratification. I do not run diagnostics on either my Facebook page or the blog.  I should, but I don’t.  I … Read entire article »

Filed under: Dear Diary, Ramblings

Why December kicks my ass. Every fracking year.

  I’ve written and bragged and yelled from the rooftops to anyone who will listen about how I make Christmas my bitch.   I do.  I really do.  But every year.. EVERY fracking year..  there are a fucktillion things that I’m in charge of, outside of my own family’s Christmas, that get the best of me. When I was working, we had a two weeks of mid-year reviews the middle 2 weeks of December.  2 weeks of 12-hour work days with business dinners at night.  When I quit working, I was so excited to have my holidays FREE!  Then I volunteered to be in charge of several activities and chair several committees that all culminated around the Holidays.  And that was okay.. I’m a good scheduler..    I was overwhelmed, but made … Read entire article »

Filed under: Dear Diary

There’s a chance THIS IS MINE!!! {half explanation and half angry rant}

  Hello!! My name Inigo Montoya, you kill my father.. prepare to die. No, wait.. that’s not right.. Hello!  My name is Hot Mess Mom!  I am the sole owner of Hot Mess Events & Entertainment.  I write a blog.  I hold events.  I sell merchandise. One morning in 2012, I got out of the shower, wrapped in a towel and said to myself Self? You know what would be funny?  Water bottles with “there’s a chance this is vodka” written on them.  Ha Ha Ha!! You are soooooooo funny! So, I called my printer, ordered a few cases of bottles and had him print them.  My invoice for this order was $1500.   I had no money and no guarantee that they would sell, but I went out on a limb and did it.   … Read entire article »

Filed under: I may be PMSing..., Ramblings, Uncategorized

There’s a hole in my bucket list.

  Last night, the boys and I were hanging on the couch, watching Duck Dynasty, when out of nowhere Number Two (10) asks “Mom, what’s on your bucket list?” Of course I giggled and asked what he knows of bucket lists.  Surprisingly he knew exactly what a bucket list was and insisted that we discuss mine. Hmmm.. Let me think…  {silence} Mom! There have to be things you want to do! But I DO stuff!! When I want to do something, I DO it!  I mean, there are places I want to go.. LOTS of places I want to travel to… but nothing that I absolutely have to do before I die. Mom.. Seriously? Dude..  I’ve jumped out of an airplane.  I’ve worked on a commercial fishing boat in Alaska.  I’ve hiked a glacier.  I’ve been to … Read entire article »

Filed under: Family, Stellar Parenting Advice

2nd Annual Million MILF March~ The Good, the Bad, & the Ugly.

  If you are new to Hot Mess Mom or have been living under a rock and don’t know what in the hell this post is about…  I hold an annual event called the Million MILF March.  It’s a pub-crawl.  It benefits charity.  MILF = Moms Investing in Laughter & Frivolity.   Everything you need to know about the event you can find HERE, HERE, and HERE.   Now.. onto the recap of the 2nd Annual Million MILF March. Where to begin? Where to begin?? I’ll start with the bad..  And by “bad”, I mean “areas for improvement”.   PLEASE feel free to email me, comment here, or PM me on Facebook with any and all input.  Let’s remember that I do this event alone.  It’s just me (with help from my friends).  I have … Read entire article »

Filed under: Million MILF March

How to throw a Viking funeral for a hermit crab

  FINALLY!- An answer to the age old question… “How does one throw a Viking funeral for a hermit crab that has been eviscerated by his fellow hermit crabs?”   I know… if you had a nickel for everytime someone has asked you that exact question….. right?   Well, here you go.  You can thank me later.   STEP ONE:   Decide upon clothing for such an austere event.   STEP TWO:  Consider if that is really the best you an do.  If not, adjust accordingly. STEP THREE:  Make a photo collage to post on Facebook so the entire interweb knows how in sync your family is.  STEP FOUR:  Arrange transportation for the casket to the funeral grounds. STEP FIVE:  Invite guests who will arrive with freshly baked banana bread so you can, once again, feed your sorrow with … Read entire article »

Filed under: Family

Mom, I miss you.

  When I began this parenting adventure, I had a full-time job that required some travel and my husband traveled full-time.  We had 3 boys in 3 1/2 years.  We had a part-time nanny and two full-time day care centers.   Life was crazy and was tackled one day at a time. In 2009, I left the work force and became a SAHM to my 8, 6, and 4 year old sons. Our life is amazing.  It’s hectic and messy and sticky and stinky and we love every second of it. If you follow Hot Mess Mom at all, you ,know what an active family we are.  We take about a dozen trips each year.  We have “afternoon adventures” and “mommy/son dates”. We lay on top of each other like cats to watch movies.  We … Read entire article »

Filed under: Dear Diary, Family

Dear Teenager, Is that an iPhone in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

  I’m a mother of boys.  I’m a friend of boys.  I’m married to a boy.  I understand boys.  I  like boys.. even the gross and bad parts..  I’m a “Boy’s Girl”. In addition to my affinity for the opposite sex, I consider myself to be a very socially liberal person.  No prudishness here.. no sirree. My boys ask about body parts, I tell them.  Babies?  I tell them.  Sex?  What do you want to know?  I tell them.   I talk to my kids about EVERYTHING.. the good, the bad, the difficult and the very ugly. They bleed, I don’t faint.  They get injured, I don’t cry.  The leave a big huge shit in the toilet without flushing, I yell and then I flush it. I am UN-RATTLEABLE. Except for when I find porn on … Read entire article »

Filed under: Dear Diary, Ways I know I'm failing as a parent