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Mom, I miss you.


When I began this parenting adventure, I had a full-time job that required some travel and my husband traveled full-time.  We had 3 boys in 3 1/2 years.  We had a part-time nanny and two full-time day care centers.   Life was crazy and was tackled one day at a time.

In 2009, I left the work force and became a SAHM to my 8, 6, and 4 year old sons.

Our life is amazing.  It’s hectic and messy and sticky and stinky and we love every second of it.

If you follow Hot Mess Mom at all, you ,know what an active family we are.  We take about a dozen trips each year.  We have “afternoon adventures” and “mommy/son dates”.

We lay on top of each other like cats to watch movies.  We have living room picnics and take sunset canoe rides.

We pretty much rock.  (if I do say so myself)

My middle son has always been MINE.  Always.  He loves his dad but he adores his mom.

He is a very social, very popular 10 year old.  He attends lots of sleepovers, playdates, and parties.

After a big social weekend, or summer camp, or after I return from a trip, he begs me to lay in bed and cuddle.  Morning, noon, or night, he just wants to cuddle and talk.  (How lucky am I, right?)    Over the past few months, when we are having our cuddlefests, he says “I miss you, Mom”.   “I missed you too, baby”.   Sometimes he pulls out the “I miss you Mom” when we’ve spent the entire week together and have only been separated during school hours.  “I missed you too, baby”.

Last week was very busy.. my youngest son’s birthday- lots of dinners, parties, sleepovers, etc.  Lots of late nights and hectic mornings.

Yesterday, we lay in bed for a cuddlefest and a Duck Dynasty marathon.

I miss you, Mom

I miss you too, baby.  But I’m right here. Do you mean ‘ I missED you’?

No, I MISS you.

But I’m right here.

I know.  But I just miss you.

What do you miss about me?


Can you give me an example?  Am I not spending enough time with you?  What’s going on?

I don’t know.  I think I miss the rocking chair.

The chair I had when y’all were babies??


What else?

I think maybe I miss “Goodnight Moon” and “No David”.

Oh.. I miss those too!  And I miss “Is your mama a Llama” and “I’ll love your forever”

Yeah!  And I miss piggy back rides to bed.

Baby, you’re too big.  You can start giving ME piggy back rides to bed!!

{pats my belly}…   you’re gonna have to eat some more salads before I can do that.

Nice. { tickle tickle}

I DON”T miss tickle fights!!!

Do you miss diapers?

Gross! No!

Do you miss bottles and baby food?


Do you miss the days when you were too young to go out bike riding with friends and had to watch the big kids through the window?


Baby..  I love that you miss me.  I love it and it makes my heart full.  But I think you don’t miss me.  I think you miss YOU.  Do you think you miss being little?

What?  No!

Are you sure?  When you were little there was no homework, no studying, no deodorant, no chores.  When you were little, you got piggy back rides and superman rides and rocked to sleep to Goodnight Moon.

I think I might kinda miss that.

Yeah.. I think I might kinda miss that too.


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32 Responses to "Mom, I miss you."

  1. Mer P says:

    Aaaaaand I’m in tears!

  2. Cherie says:

    Ugh….crying. My #1 is exactly like that with me

  3. Dan Martinek says:

    Your a great person. I love reading your stories. Your have one hell of personality. Congrats to your successes in life. You have such a beautiful family. Have a great day!

    1. Hot Mess Mom says:

      wow Dan.. Thanks so much! Hope you had a great birthday:)

  4. eileen says:

    Tears…………and now i miss my mom.

  5. j says:

    my looking holes are leaking! what is this wet stuff?!

  6. April says:

    I just started following your blog a couple of months ago and I love it :). This post made me cry. How lucky are you to have a son that still asked time to snuggle and miss you, even with his own life going on. You are an amazing mom. I hope my 8 mo daughter and I can remain close like that as well.

  7. Brandi Martyna says:

    Although I completely understand, I missed reading your blogs while you were attending to your absolutely amazing, hectic, messy and crazy blog. So so glad your back blogging and we get to read about your great family and amazing stories!

  8. Shana says:

    This is so adorable! I was so engrossed in reading I tried pouring closed milk in the coffee!! haha But seriously just by this conversation I think your family rocks!

  9. Brenda Boo says:

    What j said, times two (chest bump to making me laugh while my looking holes were sweating). You are so stinkin’ sweet and completely tapped into your kids. Great job, padawan.

  10. Julie W says:

    Ugh, ugly crying at work. I have one of those too (our 3 boys are spaced about like yours, just younger) and he just kills me on a regular basis with crap like that.

  11. Heather says:

    My boys are 13 and 8… and there is nothing- NOTHING better than when my football playing, taller than mom boy grabs me and says “I love you Mommy.”

    Or when my eight year old is falling asleep and his hand sneaks up my sleeve the way it did when he was a baby and didn’t want me pulling that sneaky “exit the nursery” maneuver.

    Man, where did the time go?

  12. RobininHouston says:

    While you always make me laugh and snort, this totally made me cry. My baby boy is now 26, married, and has a four and a half year old daughter of his own. I miss him like that every day. I miss holding him in my arms and on my hip. I miss cuddling with him in bed, playing hide and seek, and wrestling with him on the floor. I miss him holding my face and telling me, “Mommy, you so pretty. You my best friend.” It went by too damn fast! Although he now stands at 6’4 and is a grown man, I still find myself looking at him and seeing my precocious 3 and 4 year old little boy who constantly had a sweaty dirt ring around his neck and dirty little feet. Embrace these moments with your boy(s) and take lots of photos even when there is no special occassion to take them. I’m going to go call my son now. :-)

    1. Cris says:

      And I’m in tears! Lol
      I just states following u and omg! U totally freaking rock!! I love reading ur stories and shannaigans. I literally laugh at loud at some of things I read. I hope I have that with my baby. She’s 3 now and my heart melts at how fast he’s growing up. :(

  13. Katherine says:

    Damn it! Where ARE those tissues??

  14. Jane says:

    Ahh that is so cute!

  15. Lisa says:

    Wonderful post.

  16. What’s with writing posts to make me cry? Not cool Lady, not fucking cool…
    what is cool? Sons, sons are cool! Enjoy

  17. What a sweet kid. It looks like I will now have to give my mom a call.

  18. jamie says:

    So I wasn’t ready to cry, but..well..yeah! My oldest son is my cuddle bug!! His conversations have taught me alot!! He is simply an amazing kid! Thanks for sharing!! Totally loved this!

  19. Alrena says:

    Love this post!!!

  20. jenni lynn says:

    Dayum…well, you made me laugh for 2 days, I suppose it is only fair you throw some tears in there! How sweet is that boy and how friggin awesome are you!? Thank you for the insane laughter,the joyful tears, and the inspiration to be a better mama and to remember to just have fun with my brood! Kthe 8 year old twins and I will do mama/daughter girls only days in mama’s bed watchin every ghost show we can find!) Love ya ta pieces darlin!!

  21. Tanya M says:

    I’m new to your blog and admire what you do! Love this! My 10 y/o is the same way…I’d never thought of him missing being little! It really makes so much sense now! Thank you!

  22. kim says:

    I love that you can make me laugh to the point of no return and then cry with such simplicity (child truths). You are amazing and I can’t wait to keep reading more!

  23. This was so cute! I am the same way with my boys, my daughter too. She is almost 30 and still says “I love you to the moon and back” “I love you infinity and beyond” there is no price you can ever put on the love we get back, in spite of this hurried world we live in, these lil things mean the most and make us stop for a second and cherish all of those lil things. Yes, I have to say, they are all a pain in the ass in their own way, but I wouldn’t trade being a mom for anything. They are 29 (daughter) 26(son) and YES, way too many happy hours at Chili’s, the youngest is 10! He keeps me young :) Best to you HMM. Keep it coming, we love to hear about our similar worlds <3

  24. Mrs. E says:

    This made me cry. I lost my only boy on Easter of 2010, and there are times I read things like this and think “I miss you too”

    Cherish them, because sometimes they are just gone.

  25. Katye says:

    I only have one son and he is my youngest, my baby of course! He is 4 and still barrels at me when I get home from work full steam ahead like I’ve been on a three month adventure. This post reminds me so much of how sweet those moments are. I hope he still behaves this way when he is ten because this unconditional form of love and adoration is what gets me through the day sometimes.

  26. Eva Marie says:

    You’re one hell of a mama. That story was so touching.

  27. Andrea says:

    Amazingly poignant HMM… I have a “little” boy who is 12 and almost as tall as me and we both miss the little

  28. Alana says:

    I am seriously ugly crying over this right now!

  29. Hollie says:

    I just realized today after following you for a couple of months on facebook, that you actually have a blog. Yeah I know…total dumb ass moment on my part. Anyway, I have been trying to read through a variety of your posts, and came across this one. Totally “awww” moment while pretending I got something in my eye (so my lil-man doesn’t worry). He sounds just like my E-man (my oldest). Total cuddle bug. I always worry each time he cuddles it will be the last. Thanks for showing that my 10 yr old is not the only one that likes to cuddle with mom! :)

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